Compassion makes us better people. Stronger people. Our default setting in fast moving environments is to shift away from people and into task-orientation. Compassion takes a deliberate shift.
I’ve noticed that my own thoughts can start quite me-centric: looking at how the world impacts me. This self-centered model can be frustrating. Bitter filled. Driving anxiety within. Resetting the frame is boundlessly helpful and it almost immediately shifts the way I wander.
This is as simple as considering the lens of other people:
General Thoughts (thinking on a stoop thinking–outside of conflict)
- Start with how someone in your life might see something and then work your way back to how you see the same thing (something like the Aurora Borealis)
In Conflict (engaged with someone else)
- How they might be challenged.
- What baggage they might be bringing to the problem.
- The present levers and elements behind them.
Having this insight helps me deal with disagreement.
This is still a very deliberate action for me.
It presently requires willpower. For me to understand the situation and to walk away for a moment. Maybe using a shower or some Jiu Jitsu to create the mental space needed to look at the problem.
Being compassionate creates an opportunity to walk out of that moment hand in hand with people that matter to me. By re-learning compassion I remember that folks are greater than their moments.
I hope to one day be able to get to the second lens subconsciously. Moving this from a deliberate action to a subconscious will take time in meditation and prayer. Deep compassion seems to a product of inner-peace and a passion to serve.
Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive. Dalai Lama
*Business Leadership Note*
Compassion makes you more capable of understanding the challenges that others face. It helps us strengthen bonds and our ability to understand the challenges and frustrations that people have without living those challenges for ourselves.
Compassionate friends are the folks you find yourself wanting to share all the good and bad things of your life with–they won’t judge you. Compassionate leaders are more capable of driving participation, integrated culture and workplace happiness.
Jeff Weiner (CEO, LinkedIn) speaks about it in The Art of Compassionate Leadership